FRIENDS OF ELLIS™
Spokane's Lifestyle Social Club
Explore for free. Join when you're ready to experience FoE. Our public education, event information, community resources, consent guidance, and Lifestyle tools are open for you to look around before you ever spend a dollar.
A huge part of Friends of Ellis is public. You can learn about the Lifestyle, figure out the language, understand what our events are actually like, read our community standards, and get a feel for who we are before you ever spend a dollar.
Public FoE gives you the knowledge. An active FoE Membership unlocks the people, conversations, Discord community, member benefits, and access to members-only events.
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NEW TO THE LIFESTYLE?
SWINGERS 101, 102 & 103Start at the beginning. Learn the basics, what to expect, how to prepare, how to meet people, and how to navigate the room without feeling like everybody else got an instruction manual except you. START LEARNING → |
WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN?
SWINGLISHUnicorns. Bulls. Soft swap. Hall passes. Compersion. The Lifestyle has its own language, and somehow nobody hands you the dictionary when you join. So we made one. SPEAK SWINGLISH → |
KEEP THE SPONTANEITY
BEFORE YOU PLAYA practical guide to boundaries, protection, marks, roughness, changing your mind, checking in, and the quick conversations that make spontaneous play easier — not harder. READ BEFORE YOU PLAY → |
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FREEDOM WORKS WHEN WE COMMUNICATE
CONSENT & SAFETYSee how FoE approaches consent, boundaries, privacy, concerns, reporting, corrections, consequences, and the shared responsibility of looking out for each other. EXPLORE CONSENT & SAFETY → |
PICK YOUR ADVENTURE
EXPLORE EVENTSMeet & Greets, Nightclub events, Campouts, Hotel Takeovers, and whatever ridiculous idea we decide deserves to become an FoE event next. SEE HOW FoE DOES EVENTS → |
COME FOR THE EVENT. STAY FOR THE PEOPLE.
THE FoE COMMUNITYFoE is more than parties. Learn about the friendships, connection, community culture, and people that keep members coming back long after the first event. MEET THE COMMUNITY → |
If it does, create your free FoE profile. When you're ready to stop browsing and start participating, activate your membership and come experience it with us.
MEET & GREETSHave a drink, meet some people, and see if FoE feels like your kind of crowd. No pressure. No play required. EXPLORE MEET & GREETS → |
FoE NIGHTCLUBThe lights go down and the energy goes up. DJ, dancing, drinks, social spaces and adult exploration. EXPLORE CLUB NIGHT → |
HOTEL TAKEOVERSStay onsite, settle in, and turn an ordinary hotel weekend into something unforgettable. EXPLORE TAKEOVERS → |
CAMPOUTSCampfires, activities, play, laughter, and a little beautiful chaos under the stars. EXPLORE CAMPOUTS → |
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SWINGERS 101 — UNDERSTANDStart with the basics: what the Lifestyle is, how couples approach it, and what to talk about together first. START WITH THE BASICS → |
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SWINGERS 102 — PREPAREWhat do you wear? What happens when you arrive? Learn what to expect before walking through the door. GET READY → |
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SWINGERS 103 — PARTICIPATELearn how to meet people, communicate interest, navigate consent and boundaries, and actually enjoy the room once you're there. LEARN THE CULTURE → |
Take your time, ask questions, meet people, and move at your own pace.
STAY AWHILE
THE TAKEOVERThemed rooms, late nights, new connections, and the freedom to enjoy the weekend without rushing home when the party ends. |
GET AWAY
THE CAMPOUTTrade the nightclub for stars and a campfire. Spend the weekend laughing, playing, talking, relaxing, and seeing where the night takes you. |
Choose the kind of weekend you want and make it your own.
Professional DJ, full lighting production, dancing, drinks, social spaces and a night built specifically for FoE.
Club Night: 9 PM–1 AM. Professional DJ, full lighting production, dancing, drinks, social spaces, and room to see where the night goes.
Want to ease into the night? Our Meet & Greet runs from 7–9 PM. Attend either event on its own, or make a night of both. Overnight VIP packages are also available at select Club Nights.
EXPLORE FoE NIGHTCLUB →STAY FOR THE PEOPLE.
Birthdays get celebrated. Friendships form. Weddings happen. People show up for each other.
That's the part of FoE that's hard to explain until you've been here.
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This weekend was the epitome of WHY we all come together. The love was deep and wide.
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We are so grateful for you all and this community.
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Thanks so much everyone for such a sweet and low key weekend. From the bachelor/bachelorette party to the perfect wedding to clean up, it was lovely.
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CONSENT FIRSTAsk before touching. Listen to the answer. Consent should be clear, enthusiastic, and ongoing. |
RESPECT BOUNDARIESA no is enough. A maybe is not a yes. Nobody owes anyone attention, play, or an explanation. |
PROTECT PRIVACYDon't out, tag, photograph, or identify another person without their permission. |
LEAVE PEOPLE BETTERBe kind. Be responsible. Help make FoE somewhere people want to return. |
Explore without judgment while respecting the people around you.
See what's coming up and pick the one that sounds like you.
Exact event addresses are not published publicly. Purchase your ticket and your event details will tell you where to go.
MEMBERSHIP GETS YOU INSIDE FoE.
But FoE is not really a website. It is the people behind it.
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CREATE YOUR FREE PROFILEIntroduce yourselves, add your photos, tell us what you're looking for, and give FoE a chance to know who you are. Creating a profile is free. |
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GET APPROVEDEvery new profile is reviewed. FoE is not an anonymous dating site. We want real people who genuinely want to participate in the community. |
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ACTIVATE YOUR MEMBERSHIPWhen you're ready to move from learning about FoE to actually being part of it, activate an FoE Membership and unlock the full community. |
MEET YOUR PEOPLEBrowse member profiles, see who catches your attention, and get familiar with the people behind FoE before you walk into an event. |
CHAT. FLIRT. CONNECT.Message other members, start conversations, make friends, flirt a little — or a lot — and turn unfamiliar faces into people you're excited to meet. |
JOIN THE DISCORDStep into the conversation between events. Discord is where much of the day-to-day FoE community talks, jokes, plans, connects, and stays involved. |
COME TO FoE EVENTSFoE events are members only. Your active membership gives you access to purchase tickets for Meet & Greets, Club Nights, Hotel Takeovers, Campouts, and more. |
Active members also receive access to FoE member perks, discounts, resources, and other benefits we build for the community.
Your profile is free. Membership is what unlocks the FoE community and members-only events.
