NEW HERE? START HERE.
Your FoE Roadmap
You don't need to figure it all out at once. Start here and explore FoE in whatever order makes sense for you. If you're brand new to the Lifestyle, following the roadmap from top to bottom is a pretty good way to begin.
Meet FoE
Before anything else, get to know who we are and the kind of community we're trying to build.
How Friends of Ellis started, where we've been, and what FoE has grown into.
The ideas behind FoE: connection, respect, discretion, consent and community.
Quick answers about FoE, membership, events, privacy and what to expect.
Learn the Language
The Lifestyle has its own vocabulary. Knowing a little of it makes everything else much easier to understand.
Our guide to the terms, abbreviations and Lifestyle slang you're going to encounter.
Learn the Lifestyle
Curious but not quite sure how all of this works? Start at 101 and we'll walk you through it.
What is swinging? Start with the basics of the Lifestyle, relationships, boundaries and connection.
Thinking about attending your first event? Here's what to talk about and think about beforehand.
You've made it to the event. Now what? Navigating the room, meeting people and enjoying the experience.
The Unwritten Code
Some of the most important things in the Lifestyle aren't learned from a rulebook.
Bro Code, Girl Code and Couples Code — the social etiquette and lessons people usually learn only after spending time in the Lifestyle.
Know Before You Play
Good experiences start with communication, clear expectations and knowing how FoE operates.
A practical conversation about boundaries, expectations, protection and communication before things get physical.
The FoE rules we expect members and guests to follow, along with the Golden Rules of the Lifestyle.
Understand FoE's approach to consent and safety, and what to do if something happens that you believe we should know about.
Go Deeper
Want to learn more? We've collected some of the tools, resources and people worth knowing.
Books, education and resources for sex, relationships, communication and the Lifestyle.
FoE guides, tools and other things you can download and use.
Businesses, professionals and resources that may be useful to members of our community.
Experience FoE
Eventually you have to get off the internet. Here's where FoE comes to life.
Find out what's happening with FoE and explore the different kinds of experiences we host.
Relaxed, social-first gatherings where you can meet the community without pressure.
Music, dancing, flirting and an adult nightlife experience built for the FoE community.
Get away for the weekend with friends, games, activities and plenty of time together.
Our biggest immersive weekends, with the hotel experience built around the FoE community.
Have an event, party or experience in mind? Bring us the idea and let's see what we can create together.
Join the Community
FoE is more than the nights we throw parties. Here's how to become part of the community around them.
Learn how the community works and the different ways people connect through FoE.
Build a profile that actually helps other members understand who you are and what you're looking for.
Learn about FoE membership and choose the option that works for you.
Keep the conversations and connections going between events.
Get Involved
Want to do more than attend? There are ways to help build the experience for everyone.
Help welcome guests, support events and become part of the team that makes FoE happen.
More From FoE
A couple more ways to connect with what we're doing.
DJ, sound and lighting for FoE events, weddings, private parties and other celebrations.
Keep up with upcoming events, tickets, announcements and what's happening around FoE.
You don't have to learn it all tonight.
Read a little. Meet some people. Ask questions. Come to an event when you're ready. The Lifestyle makes a lot more sense once you stop trying to memorize it and start getting to know the people in it.
