THE SWINGLIST
A conversation starter for figuring out who you are, what you're looking for, and where you might connect.
"So... what are you two looking for?"
Sometimes the answer isn't simple at all.
The SwingList gives you something to talk about. Check some boxes, compare answers, ask questions, and see where the conversation goes.
Maybe it's sitting on a table while you're talking with another couple.
Maybe somebody checks something you never would have thought to ask about.
That's the point.
The SwingList isn't designed to tell you whether you're compatible. It's designed to give you things worth talking about so you can figure that out yourselves.
The checkboxes start the conversation. They don't finish it.
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ABOUT USWho you are, where you are in the Lifestyle, and a little about the people behind the profile. |
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WHAT WE'RE LOOKING FORSocial connections, flirting, play, friendships, experiences, or maybe just seeing where the night goes. |
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OUR VIBEThe energy and connections you enjoy, because compatibility is about more than checking the same sexual boxes. |
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THINGS WE'RE INTOInterests, curiosities, experiences, and the things that might make somebody say, "Wait... us too." |
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HOW WE PLAYThe way you approach play, connection, comfort, communication, and the things that matter when attraction starts going somewhere. |
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ASK US ABOUT...The stuff that doesn't fit neatly inside a checkbox. Sometimes the best conversation starts with an invitation to ask. |
Are we compatible?
Before flirting turns into something more, people start figuring each other out. Who are you? What are you looking for? What interests you? What matters to you? And is there enough overlap here that we want to keep exploring?
The SwingList gives you an easy way to start those conversations. It doesn't replace communication. It gives communication somewhere to begin.
LEARN ABOUT THE SPARK CHECKIt does not obligate you to do anything.
You can change your mind. Your partner can change their mind. Another person can change their mind.
Something that sounds exciting while you're talking about it may feel completely different when the opportunity is actually in front of you.
And matching checkboxes don't mean two people automatically want to do those things with each other.
Current consent always matters more than a box you checked earlier.
1. CHECK THE BOXES THAT SOUND LIKE YOU.
Don't overthink it. This isn't a test and there isn't a right answer.
2. COMPARE.
With your partner. With another couple. With somebody you're getting to know. See where your answers overlap and where they don't.
3. ASK ABOUT THE ANSWERS.
The useful part isn't the checkmark. It's the conversation behind it.
"What does that look like for you?" can be a much better question than simply asking whether somebody is into something.
4. DON'T ASSUME A MATCH MEANS YES.
Shared interests tell you that you may have something worth talking about. They don't tell you what somebody wants to do tonight, with whom, or under what circumstances.
5. REVISIT IT.
Experience changes people. Interests change. Boundaries change. Comfort changes. Something you were curious about may become a favorite, or something you thought you'd love may turn out not to be your thing.
That's normal.
The SwingList gives you prompts when you're still learning how to have these conversations.
Eventually you won't need the worksheet. You'll know how to talk about yourselves, ask good questions, listen to the answers, and figure out whether there's a connection.
Don't let assumptions do the communicating.
It'll help you have the conversations that make answering it a whole lot easier.
Download it. Check some boxes. Compare answers. Ask questions. See where the conversation goes.
